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Feeling Inadequate Seven Strategies to Silence Your Inner Critic

May 7, 2019
By Anesa McGregor , Emmetsburg News

As my own worse critic, I understand the feeling of inadequacy and that little voice inside your head that only feeds the fire making it all the worse.

I had to share this article I found at It's the first time I have ever seen anything that even suggests what to do to stop being so critical of ones self.

It's easy to criticize yourself, especially when others criticize you too. Feeling inadequate is hard when rebuilding your self-esteem.

Well, the truth is, its probably been around since your childhood. I bet you didn't know that. Feeling inadequate came from some instance, most likely in childhood, where someone made you feel unloved or unwanted by comparing you to a sibling or something else. Now, you feel the same way when dealing with your insecurities.

There's a person within you that tells you the lies about your person. They aren't nice, and they pull no punch when it comes to reminding you about your short-comings. Do you wish to silence this voice?

1. Roots, roots, roots

Your inner critic comes from some long-ago insult or abuse. It's true. Look at your roots, then you will know it wasn't you, but the one who insulted you. Maybe they felt inadequate and making you feel the same made them feel better about themselves.

2. Awareness is key

When you start feeling emotions of being inadequate, stop and realize one important thing. These are only thoughts. They do not rule your life, and you know that you're better than what you give yourself credit for.

3. See the inner critic as a challenge

Understand, these feelings that you are inadequate will never truly go away forever. I know, that's not such a positive idea, huh. But, all is not lost. You can think about it this way: You can use your inner critic to build yourself up.

4. Contradict the inner critic

Here's an interesting way to combat the inner negative voice. For example, your inner voice says, "You're stupid". Now, that's a statement many of us have heard in our lives at some point. Well, you can take this statement and word it in a way that says positive things about you.

I5. Ask for help

Feeling that you're inadequate can get overwhelming and sometimes make you want to give up. Don't ever give up. In fact, start practicing self-care which will, in time, start to build better self-esteem.

6. The inner critic lies

You cannot always count on the words that come from inside. If you've made a to-do list, but yet you aren't able to get all those things done, your inner critic will jump right in with insults about your inadequacy.

The truth is, this is just fine, and your inner critic can go get a life, so to speak.

7. Don't be a slave to your inner critic

When feeling those inadequacies, do not become a slave to them. Do not fall for these lies. Never start feeling inadequate just because that voice says it

Trust the true you, the one who makes you feel good about yourself. Yes, listen to this voice instead. This voice will make your stronger and quiet those negative thoughts that have tricked you into thinking you must be better than you are.

Remember, you are good enough just the way you are. Your improvements come by hard work and determination, but they also come by taking a break once in a while and recharging your energies. Just do your best and that will be enough.



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